Help for Those who Experience Same-Sex Attraction
It is healthy to understand your same-sex attractions and make conscious lifestyle choices. This site can help you do that.
Many people who experience same-sex attraction seek a way to live their lives in harmony with traditional religious values. As you decide how to respond to same-sex attractions, you can make choices according to your personal values and life situation. This site presents practical solutions that may be helpful to you.
If you believe that same-sex romantic and sexual relationships do not fit within God’s plan for you, this site can help you explore questions and make life choices. The site consists of the following key sections:
 What is Same-sex Attraction? |
Same-sex attraction (also known as homosexuality, gay, lesbian, or LGBTQ) refers to an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to people of the same sex. This section will help you understand more deeply your emotional needs, desires, and sexual feelings. Consider issues common among men who experience same-sex attraction. |
 What Can You Do About Same-sex Attraction? |
You can choose how to respond to your same-sex attractions. This book guides you through the process of considering options and making choices according to your personal values and life situation. |
 How can family, friends, and church leaders help? |
Learn how friends, family, and church leaders can support people who experience the complex issues of same-sex attraction. |
If you experience same-sex attraction, you have options on how to live your life—including identity and sexual behavior. This site presents options and practical solutions that have been experienced by thousands of people in their lives. It contains writings from a variety of people from a variety of religious backgrounds.
Most of the theories, approaches, and ideas on this site relate to men. Much of this information may also be helpful to women who experience same-sex attraction and some of it may not.
The following are the core values espoused on this site:
Personal Choice
People who experience same-sex attraction have the right to direct the course of their lives congruent with their values and religious beliefs. There are a variety of ways to respond to same-sex attraction. Some choose to self-identify as gay and others do not. Some choose to engage in same-sex sexual behavior and others do not. People have the right to pursue the options that are self-affirming and congruent with their personal values and beliefs.
Client Self-Determination
Individuals who experience same-sex attractions have the right to decide whether to seek professional counseling or therapy, what kind of counseling to seek, and to determine the desired direction of their therapy program. This is known professionally as a client’s right to self-determination, which is a recognized principle in counseling and psychotherapy ethics.
Tolerance
Regardless of the choices people make regarding sexual identity and lifestyle, people deserve to be valued and respected. Their choices should not subject them to discrimination or ridicule. Demands for tolerance by one group can never justify intolerance or ridicule of another.