Is it possible to resolve same-sex attraction?
Many people have been successful in overcoming homosexual behavior, diminishing same-sex attraction, resolving internal conflicts, and living according to their personal and religious values.
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The world has defined concepts such as homosexuality and sexual orientation and tells us that they are inborn and cannot be changed. Many people have bought into this theory and believe that a same-sex attraction is as genetic as race or left-handedness. They say that those who have changed are simply engrossed in a fantasy and some day will come back to reality and realize they are still have same-sex attractions.
Although these "pro-gay" arguments are complex and can appear logical, they have little credibility when viewed in the broader perspective of life.
Dr. Charles Socarides stated, "The major challenge in treating homosexuality, from the point of view of the patient’s resistance, has, of course, been the misconception that the disorder is innate or inborn." (Socarides, p. 309) But you are not a "homosexual" and do not have an inalterable "sexual orientation."
Some people would like the public to believe that no one really changes. They claim that individuals who say they have overcome it either (1) didn't really experience same-sex attraction in the first place or (2) are only suppressing their true feelings and will someday realize it. The truth is that many people find success in overcoming homosexual behavior, diminishing same-sex attraction, resolving internal conflicts, and living according to their personal and religious values. Read more proof that people really overcome same-sex attraction.
We personally attest that it is possible to diminish same-sex attractions, eliminate homosexual behavior, and lead a happy and full life. We know this because we have done it. We used to be conflicted by our feelings and tormented by our desires to act out. Now that we have resolved these issues, we feel peace and comfort as a whole person. And ours is not the only case. We personally know many other people and have read about hundreds more who have resolved significant problems and are now much happier and at greater peace with themselves and with God.
For further reading
 | Same-sex attraction: Opposing Viewpoints (William Dudley, book editor, Greenhaven Press, San Diego, CA, 1993). This book objectively analyzes the two sides of the question whether change is possible. |