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Help for Those who Experience Unwanted Same-Sex Attraction

It is healthy for people to understand their same-sex attractions and make conscious lifestyle choices.
This site can help you do that.

Same-sex attraction (also known as homosexuality or being gay) is an intense interest in or sexual attraction to others of the same gender. This interest may include desires for their attention, friendship, intimacy, and/or a fascination with their bodies and other gender traits. A person who experiences same-sex attraction may have emotional and sexual feelings or attractions, whether or not he or she engages in sexual behavior. Same-sex attraction includes feelings, desires, sexual behavior, identity, and all its associated aspects, such as gender identity (feelings of masculinity or femininity), emotional dependency, and relationship issues. Read about what is same-sex attraction, including a description of attractions, identity, and behavior.

Same-sex attraction appears to be the result of a complex interaction of personality, biological inheritance, and developmental experiences. Read a description of what causes same-sex attraction, including information about 8 kinds of life experiences that are common in the backgrounds of men with same-sex attraction. Learn how many people experience same-sex attraction.

Feelings of same-sex attraction are not chosen, but people do choose how they respond to them. Determining how to respond is a personal choice that each individual must make according to his or her personal values and life situation. This section guides you through the process of making decisions about how to respond to same-sex attraction, then discusses specific issues that you may want to focus on. Each section provides practical help and resources. Find out what you can do about same-sex attraction.

People who experience same-sex attraction need the love, support, and encouragement of friends, family, and church leaders to deal with the complex issues that confront them. Healthy and varied connections in church, social, and personal life can make an enormous difference. Learn how family, friends, and church leaders can help.